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BMJ 2005;330:356 (12 February), doi:10.1136/bmj.330.7487.356
When I took her on as my patient, she made it clear that she did not hold the medical profession in high regard. She had worked for many years in a medical students' hostel and had seen us with our youthful exuberance and excesses. She now lived alone on the 10th floor of a tower block, and I always ended my visits to her going to the window to admire the magnificent view over the city.
Her body was crumbling: she was confined to a chair with an osteoporotic spine, and her neck seemed to have collapsed so that her head apparently sprouted from her upper chest at a crazy angle. Yet her mind remained as sharp as a pin: she was constantly pointing out my mistakes or omissions, much to my embarrassment. Our discussions about her treatment and conditions felt more like discussions with a colleague rather than with a patient.
The only family was a nephew in another town, represented by a photograph from the 1970s, the colours taking on strange hues as the event it depicted faded into the past. I was curious to know why she hadn't married, but it would have been inappropriate to ask and I never did.
I had respect and affection for her. Despite her isolation and frailty, she never complained. She rarely bothered us at the surgery, and if she requested a visit I was pleased to go, knowing that it was justified. On her 90th birthday, I took her a cardsomething I have never done before or since for a patientknowing that few others would be celebrating that great achievement.
One day, while working for the out of hours service, I received a request to visit. On my arrival it was clear that she was seriously ill and barely comprehensible. There was only one place for her. As I spoke to the admitting doctor on the telephone, I noticed a movement from the corner of my eye. Her arm was moving slowly from a flexed to an almost extended position. Then her body was motionless. After checking her, I told the admitting officer that I would not be sending her in after all.
I felt honoured to have been present with this remarkable woman, my patient and friend, when her life ebbed away.
David Scarfe, general practitioner
Marston Medical Centre, Oxford (david.scarfe{at}dphpc.ox.ac.uk)
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